Some people live in such a disillusioned state to think that those negative learned behaviors are going to produce something good. In order to produce good you must do good. No one is perfect and everyone (including myself) are in a constant state of change.
There is a process in the progress that is being made if you allow it. If you have made a mess personally, spiritually, socially, ethically and emotionally then be responsible enough to clean it up because no one else us going to do it!
In order to do better learn how to communicate. If you can talk to yourself then have the ability to talk to others. Time is not long and tomorrow is not promised. Make it your business to fix the issues you have in yourself and with others.